So they stay or do they go

Hi my husband and I both have been diagnosed with NETs. He was diagnosed 5 years ago and is stable I was diagnosed last year - major surgery in November then diagnosed with carcinoid heart disease in Jan and now preppping for open heart surgery in July travelling from country WA to Melbourne. We have children 14, 17 and 20 dilemma of do they come with us or do they stay. Limited finances thankfully covered by private insurance.